I just have some steam to let out.First a lil background. When he was 'courting' my Mom he was a perfect gentleman. Drove very carefully, epened doors for her, etc... After they married I knew he was trouble. why? He suggested a honeymoon to Hawaii and they went for 2 weeks. That part was very cool. However, the bad part was when he was paying the bill. He said to Mom; "You want to pay half of this?"
Mom, ever the too sweet person, reluctantly said yes. What would anyone say after being asked that. If she said no, then how would he react. Marriage off to a shakey start. And she always feared living alone. Ok, so she paid for half of her own honeymoon.
Jeez. What 'man' asks their new wife to pay for half her own honeymoon, AFTER it..That was our first warning.
Then he never opened doors for her again. Had her sit in the backseat when we'd all drive somewhere. Never opening a door for her, helping her in or out or even asking her where she'd like to sit. Wouldn't a gentleman have the lady sit in front? open doors for her? Maybe it's me.
Then the TV. It was always him controlling it, never ever asking her if she wanted to watch anything. He'd buy something and then always ask Mom "You want to pay half". Of course she did. He knew she was easy and took advantage of her.
There's much more petty bs. But then the accident. They went to the beach and on the way back they were going by his hometown to see his family(couple hours off the beach path). This is one major thing that bothers me. He was a very careful driver before they were married, after they married he was an aggressive driver. He even openly bragged how he'd block another from 'cutting him off'.
About an hour from his hometown is when the other car went through a stop sign and hit them, causing that driver to die, her two kids seriously and permanently injured. And My Mom lost an eye, various broken bones (it's all in the accident thread here). He wasn't hurt nearly as bad. The day of the accident my brother and me were in his hospital room talking to him and he said he "saw her coming and sped up". He said that several times to us. We just listened, 'consoled' him and Mom. They were in different rooms
The next day he said "he can't remember anything. His story changed. We let it go because we were far more concerned about our Mother. Mom always said she didn't see anything till the hit. He also told me that if I had drove them then this probably wouldn't have happened. See, he wanted me to drive them, but I was sick of him. He pees all over when going. I was sick of that and other bs from him, so I didn't go. Too bad, yes my mistake.
Local police did determine the other driver at fault so their insurance was to pay for all the bills of My Mom and her husband. Bad thing is the other driver didn't have a lot of insurance and isn't covering everything. My Mom has had many treatments, getting a glass eye and now she has macular degeneration in her one remaining eye. At first seeing out of her remining eye wasn't too bad. During eye treatment the doc foun she has macular degeneration. Basically that means she is progressively going blind. And it is aggressive. Now she cannot make our faces out nor see fine print. It is getting worse.
Her 'hubby' kept reading the bad things about macular degeneration to her so many times I asked him to stop, she heard you. Yes, that dip really is that damned cold! He only cares for himself and it's been clear since they were married he just wanted to be married to be waited on hand and foot. See, he started courting Mom less than 30 days after his wife died.
He's from that generation as my Dad was where the man is the man of the house and the woman has zero say. Man controls all. Wife listens.
It has been a struggle getting him to pay remaining bills. Not sure if he has or hasn't. I was there when some of Mom's friends at her church came by after we took them home from the accident and hospital. He was hurt far less, and when Mom tried to answer their questions about her various injuries, he kept interrupting her whining about how badly he was hurt (even yelling in pain), never letting her finish. I was too amazed to react. But damned what a selfish person he is.
Anyway, her eyesite is getting worse and she is having laser treatments that is suppose to slow it down.Another one in the morning. A new drug has been approved called "macugen" that is specifically for what she has. But it isn't on the market, even though it has been approved. I have been trying hard to get it on the market and have been told it can take "years". Why? :;
Still with me?
Mom was reading a magazine and noticed this ad. It's a device that helps one like her see the things she cannot. A few day after her mentioning that she said "they" decided against it. "They"? Yes, that cheapazz hubby of hers. Now if it was he who couldn' see, wonder what he'd do. I was too shocked to react. Though that IS how cheap he is.
In any case I am taking her (them) in the morning for another laser treatment. Then I'll ask the doc about macugen and also show him that lowvisiondoctor. I printed it all out. There has been friction building between he and I because of his 'cheapness' to my Mom. My 2 brothers and one seester won't even speak up for Mom. Me, the youngest, has to. They won't even back me up! aaahhhhg!!
Talked to her about an hour ago and about leaving in the morning. I was telling her I printed out that lowvisiondoctor site and would show it to her eye doc tomorrow, then I heard a click. Duh, forgot he usually 'listens in'. Sad thing is, he is far from poor.
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