Any turmoil would probably make it worse
You are so very right. I have been biting my tongue as much as I am capable of. I try hard to be polite when asking him to cover his mouth when he sneezes or coughs. I kid when I say to him "open the door for Mom, be a gentleman".
It's funny. Today as we were in a waiting room at the hospital another patient waiting was talking about the manners of people. I brought up how some won't cover their mouths when sneezing or coughing. My mom said "yes that's right and bad". In the car going back he sneezed several times. Not once covering his mouth. It's a lost cause. He has his ways and is too stubborn to change.
He wouldn't let me drive and it was snowing here today. Then had Mom pay for the parking!
I paid for it. He should pay for anything and everything related to that accident. And this is.
I try hard to be civil with him Tony. I try hard. No. If he dies I'd feel zero for him. He shows no respect for Mom, or us, so why should I respect him. But as Koo Koo and darcy said, being by oneself is lonely so she tolerates him. She cannot take being by herself. Though she'd probably be living with me if not for him.
The visit went well for the most part. When we were checking in I asked the secretary about macugen. She showed me an advertisement for it and smiled.
Once we saw the Doc I asked him and he was very familiar with it and says he is a "spokesman" for macugen. He said he needs to take more pics of her eye and then decide what next to do.
After viewing the pics and testing her vision he said the obvious, that her vision has gotten worse since her last visit. He said he'll pass on the laser and scheduled her for the first macugen treatment the 30th. Then have it every six weeks for up to 2 years.
What all I've read on
macugen has been very positive and is specifically for what she has, wet amd. And has helped most in testing. But he said it isn't a cure all and it might not help her. Plus it could cause hemorrhaging and/or total vision loss. :;
I then showed him that seeing device and said he was familar with that too and said that may be an option, but later.
Bad thing is macugen has to be injected into the eye with a needle. That can be disasterous. But can also help. So what to do.
She agreed to start macugen the 30th. She doesn't fully understand injecting it and I intentionally didn't dwell on that because I know she'd dread it and probably back out.
But darn. If she doesn't have it then she will go blind for sure. Her vision is rapidly getting worse and worse. It looks like we have no other choice but to try it.
